Recognizing Signs of Narcissism Early Can Speed Up Treatment

Narcissism is on the rise in the USA with recent studies finding that as many as 1 in every 200 people are living with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). While narcissism is often labeled as merely a personality disorder it is, in fact, a mental health concern just like anxiety and depression and is treated in a similar fashion by mental health professionals.  Although narcissism is very easy to diagnose in some people, it is considerably harder when there is a very thin line between self-confidence and NPD. Here are a few signs that might point to a heightened possibility of NPD in an individual.

Narcissists are, by nature, extremely charming people. They act in a manner that will further their own personal agendas while also earning them a great deal of attention and admiration. Very often, narcissists are perceived as just being very self-confident and charismatic. Once the narcissist has drawn in their intended ‘victim’, however, they start to show their true colors which often involves being extremely irritable and even short-tempered. Someone with narcissistic tendencies may be able to change their personality at the drop of a hat to suit a specific situation. Unfortunately, this is often followed by severe emotional manipulation. In addition to being charming and manipulative, they may get bored very quickly when they are in a relationship, often seeking greener pastures.

Someone with NPD may find themselves eager to unpack any psychological concerns or childhood traumas they may have right at the start of a relationship. This is called trauma dumping and its purpose is to gain trust and sympathy from an unsuspecting target. Although every relationship requires open and honest communication channels, it is never appropriate to divulge so much personal information at such an early stage. For a narcissist, ‘too soon’ does not exist as they are desperate for immediate affection and affirmation. Trauma dumping is especially common among covert narcissists who believe that their own suffering is far worse than anyone else’s could ever be.

It is normal to discuss your values and goals for the future with your partner. Someone with NPD, however, might have a habit of future faking which entails making overly grand plans for the future before they have even had a chance to get to know their partner. Although people with NPD can (and often do) have real feelings, they are often interwoven with their own ego, making it hard for them to envision themselves in someone else’s shoes. This can cause immense emotional distress for their partner as not many people are comfortable being in close proximity to someone who finds it so easy to lie. Someone who has no problem fabricating their plans for the future simply to be praised, might have narcissistic tendencies.

Every year more Americans are diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder. If you know what signs to look out for, it is possible to seek out professional help and minimize the impact of the condition to a large extent.